Marriage & Family

Still us
Somewhere, between diapers and sippys and Bluey and Elmo, between baseball and ballet and preschool and music lessons and Bible[...]
Mom fail
I had what felt like a major mom-fail yesterday. It was smushed in the middle of a day filled with[...]
Stuff I didn’t do
Stuff I didn’t do this Christmas, and why: Christmas cards (one child still refuses to look at the camera so[...]
Mary knew
You guys. Mary knew. She knew exactly who Jesus was and what he was sent to do. The angel was[...]
Miracles for breakfast
A peek behind our curtain, shared with permission: One day not so long ago we were almost divorced, each wondering[...]
Whether you’re bursting with grateful praise, or finding it hard to even feel thankful for the breath in your lungs,[...]
Relax already
I was a total party pooper to my 11-year-old son yesterday. He said, intentionally, thoughtfully, and a little sadly: I[...]
Heaven and earth
Sometimes the veil between heaven and earth feels paper thin. It’s been a beautiful day to remember our firstborn, making[...]
It was just a peanut butter sandwich
It was just a peanut butter sandwich. I lost my damn mind and was rude to my daughter over a[...]
I was livid at God for cheating me – for taking my baby, for wrecking my body, for smashing my[...]
Showing up
I’m up… again. Maybe I’m up *still?*. It’s been a week and the days just kind of blur together. This[...]
Birthdays in heaven
He’s 13 today. The boy who made me a mom. And he’s not here to celebrate. Most of the time[...]
Control what you can and release the rest
I may have my hands on the wheel, but we all know who’s *really* driving this crazy rig. (Still wondering[...]
Heroes and Villains
Truths I Don’t Like #748: I am the villain in someone else’s story. Probably lots of someones, actually. A lifetime[...]
Going forward
Well, we made it.  Made it through October, I mean.  I know the month's not officially over yet, but we[...]
Trust takes guts
Yesterday was our daughter’s birthday, which always brings me some extra thoughts and a little grateful overwhelm.  Being entrusted with[...]
Love Languages
Can something as small as a silly joke or as simple as a word of encouragement speak straight to the[...]
Christmas presence: Stocking Stuffers 1-7
I have a present for you!  Well, presents, plural.  PRESENCE, actually. 31 little gifts of presence for the Advent season.[...]
Forgiveness 101: what it IS & what it ISN’T
Forgiveness can bring us peace and a path forward.  So why does it feel so impossible sometimes? I'll answer that[...]
When hope feels impossible
When hope feels impossible... How do you forgive the unforgivable? How do you trust the untrustable? How do you love[...]
Self care isn’t selfish
Giving feels hard right now. We’re all maxed out.  Stressed out.  Worried out.  Zoomed out.  News-ed out.  Social media-d out.[...]
Make kindness your greatest strength
I have been trying my whole adult life to make sure other people “don't mistake my kindness for weakness." It's[...]
Choose love
We had absolutely no idea what we were doing.  Our ceremony was so short we actually panicked at the end[...]
Mother Warrior – a Mothers Day battle cry
Mothers Day is messy for me, a different kind of wonderful-hard-precious-messy every year. We've all got issues and I know[...]
The stress of parenting on marriage
The stress of parenting on marriage is insane.  Luckily, a good marriage will bear a lot of weight.  Its trunk[...]
Suggestions please
There’s this thing I think I’m supposed to write but I don’t want to do it.  I DON’T WANNA. But[...]
True Marriage Story
We've had a typical morning for us... coffee club a few minutes before the kids wake up, car line in[...]
Marriage Habits
Marriage is hard.  Did you know that? So is life.  So is parenting.  Adulting is hard all on its own[...]
Surviving the holidays when you’re barely surviving
Surviving the holidays seems impossible when your life is falling apart.  (Spoiler alert: you can do it.  Keep reading and[...]
Relationship fights: 10 things to say instead
There are so many things I wish I did better when it comes to how to handle relationship fights.  Particularly[...]
Seasons change – and so do I
It’s Texas, and it’s still 100 degrees out, with no end in sight.  I love summer, and pool weather, and[...]
10 Things I Didn’t Know About Marriage (but I wish someone told me)
1. Your spouse is going to drive you crazy. All those things you thought were super cute about your spouse[...]
Arguments in Marriage: Say This, Not That
If only there were an Easy Button to help us say this, not that. When it comes to arguments in[...]
20 Questions Worth Asking Your Spouse
We took a trip several years ago in October.  If our marriage was in rough shape before we left, it[...]
New growth in marriage
Waiting for new growth is a gamble sometimes.  At what point do you call it quits on something (or someone)[...]
7 tips for summer lovin’ | Making time for your marriage
Making time for your marriage in the summertime is hard because it can feel like there’s no time for us.[...]
9 months out: bouncing back at thirty-something
All I ever wanted was to be a mom. Now as an adult, I realize that there are so many[...]
Memory Lane
Most days I just toss whole (soft) fruit and veggies on his tray for him to pick up and feed[...]
Build better belief
When G was 5, we had her in gymnastics.  A favorite treat after class was playing at the nearby park[...]
Say the right thing
It’s hard to say the right thing. It's so hard to say the right thing sometimes that my default is[...]
Lost and Found: a turn of the grief wheel
I don’t panic much anymore – life experience has taught me that it’s not much use.  But I panicked this[...]
When you fall out of love (or when love is the last thing you feel)
I know I’m supposed to love you but I hate you right now. I wish I could tell you I’ve[...]
101 ways to say “I Love You”
The best gifts really are free!  Well, almost free - they just take a little bit of time and effort. [...]
How to get your kids to do chores with a family chore scavenger hunt
How can I get my kids to do chores?  This is actually the follow up question to my standing Monday[...]
Say What You Mean
I'm going to preface this by saying that for some people (me) it can feel really hard to say what[...]
Coffee Club: Making time for your marriage
Coffee club is one of my favorite happy places. Long before we had coffee club in our marriage, I hosted[...]
Curb Your Ego
I just wanted a nacho.     Grannie treated G to a tray of nachos at the ball game and they[...]
What Men Think Part 3: Honest Answers to Emotional Questions
I hope you're loving this series - it's been really fun to put together. (Check out Part 1 on Faith[...]
What Men Think Part 2: Honest Answers to Questions on Work/Life Balance
We're in the middle of an interview I did with my husband, Jack. If you missed Part 1 on Faith,[...]
What Men Think Part 1: Honest Answers to Questions on Faith
It's not what you think. I mean, it's a lot of the stuff we assume they're thinking, for sure. And[...]
Who am I? (and who do I want to be?)
I posted of my favorite graphics earlier today on social media.  I cannot even remember where I saw this a[...]
Valentines Day is Stupid (and other lies I told myself)
It’s dumb.  Really.   We've all been bamboozled into believing we need to spend billions (with a b, seriously) on roses[...]
Create your Marriage and Family Mission Statement
If you're aiming for nothing, you'll hit it - every time. We set goals for our work, our weight, our[...]
Don’t let the fear of failure hold you back
How's this for a little pep talk for your morning?! Yep, we're gonna talk about it - fear. Specifically our[...]
Let’s go: saying YES to a new adventure
God isn’t messing around when he says “Hop in, let’s go.” He said it to Noah. He said it to[...]
Grace beyond measure
This post originally appeared as "Nine Years of Grace" on Heartfully Present in January 2019. I promised I would be[...]
Fulfilling Your Vows Virtual Christian Marriage Summit
Happy New Year!  By this point you have likely created – and possibly abandoned – some great resolutions for 2019. [...]
I made you something!
So I posted a little teaser awhile back, a picture of our home-grown production studio in the front room of[...]
Leaning Back
I’m back. Well, I never really left, but life got a little wild. We’re all here and we’re all doing[...]
The Blame Game: Nobody Wins
They were just BLTs for goodness’ sake. I talked them up all day to my little people. And they were[...]
Burn the Plows (BTP)
Originally posted June 2018, revised June 2019 Late through the night before our 12th anniversary, we stood hunched over our[...]
LEGACY SERIES Part 3: What I Really Want to Teach My Children
What do I really want to teach my children? One of the kids’ favorite morning cartoons tossed out the phrase[...]
What I’ve Learned: Lessons from Dad
Revised June 2019 We're coming up on Fathers Day, which is my favorite time of year to reflect on the[...]
LEGACY SERIES Part 1: Honor Those Who Have Gone Before Us
For most of us, Memorial Day has become an occasion for sleeping in, gathering with family and friends to eat,[...]
Best Summer EVER: 15 Easy Summer Hacks to Max Out Your Fun and Save Your Sanity
Summer is HERE! Can you feel it?  8 days of school left here for our littles and they are all[...]
Bringing Your Best (when all you’ve got is your worst)
A tough topic hit our home over the past couple days, one on which we go round and round the[...]
Keeping the Past from Wrecking the Present
We’ve known each other more than half my lifetime.  We've tackled most of our life challenges together but we still[...]
13 Fun Meals My Kids Will Actually Eat
I love to cook a great meal. Good, hearty, from-scratch, real-ingredients, no-skimp food. I love to eat it too, with[...]
The Miscommunication Monster Ate My Marriage
The most ridiculous miscommunication (read: fight) we ever had was over a failed recipe. Well, it started over a failed[...]
Creating Meaningful Connection
We entered Team Sports World last year in our little guy’s introduction to tee-ball. Jack was on cloud nine –[...]
Marriage Recovery: 10 Things We Learned
The moment I walked in the door of our home after four days away, the smell knocked me back. I[...]
Grace-filled Adoption (National Adoption Month)
November is National Adoption Month, and I'm a little embarrassed I literally had no idea until this year.  Maybe I've[...]
Bucket filling
 Based on a recent poll on social media, this particular topic on bucket filling in our family was the winning[...]

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